When you begin to handle matters related to divorce, it often gets so overwhelming that you cannot even maintain your own mental health and well-being. As a parent, though, you also have your child’s health and well-being to consider.
One of the first hurdles you will run into is breaking the news in the first place. Many people have tips and tricks on the best ways of doing this, but which ones actually work?
How to best handle it
Psychology Today examines how to deal with upcoming divorce and how to help your children cope as well. First and foremost, understand that there is no way of breaking the news that will entirely allow you to avoid hurting your child. Divorce is an inherently harmful topic of discussion, and no amount of polishing your presentation will change that.
You should also keep in mind that every child is different. What worked well for your friend’s child may not work for yours. It is beneficial to take the information you learn from multiple sources and apply it to what you know of your child already. After all, no one knows them better than you.
Cooperation is key
Next, cooperate with your co-parent. Though this sounds simple in theory, many parents find it difficult in practice, especially if your divorce is particularly contentious or rocky. But this is one of the best things you can do not only for your child but also for yourself.
For your child, it extends a steady foundation and feeling of stability. They see that you can still work together even in such a time of duress and can trust that you will have the situation handled, moving forward. You and your co-parent can work together in the meantime to discuss and plan out conversations in a way that allows everyone to get their say. It is a winning situation for all.