After you and your ex-spouse finalize your divorce, you may start to feel settled into your child custody routine.
However, if you notice your children reacting poorly and continually disrespecting you, you may start to wonder what is causing this change. Parental alienation is more than a few isolated incidents of your children getting upset. Learning about the patterns of this phenomenon can help you stop it.
According to Psychology Today, the main goal of alienation is for your ex-spouse to ruin the relationship between you and your children. This means you talk to them less as time goes on, and they may become increasingly angry at you, as well as feel more drawn to your ex-spouse.
If you are struggling to have meaningful conversations with your children, it could be because of something your ex-spouse said to them about you. They may act more upset or throw temper tantrums more often when they are with you.
Lack of positive feelings
While most children may have days where they are feeling upset, if you notice that these days are more common than before, you may need to look for signs of alienation. Children who claim to not remember any good moments with their other parent are often influenced by their alienating co-parent.
This can lead to your children struggling to trust you or feeling nervous a lot of the time.
Less trust and respect
An idealized view of one parent can harm children who feel scared to disagree with whatever they say.
When your ex-spouse lies to them and paints you in a bad light to make them seem like the only good parent, your children can quickly feel isolated and confused. Parental alienation not only harms you but your children as well.